Women Sabotaging Women

Women Sabotaging Women — success is ours to shape or destroy

Dec 9, 2016

Now, more than ever, we know toxic people cause harm — See expert analysis on the subject published in PubMed which reports:- exposure to stimuli that causes strong negative emotions, the same kind of exposure you get when dealing with toxic people, caused subjects’ brains to have a massive stress response and significantly increase the risk of chronic disease. Whether it’s negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome, or just plain craziness, toxic people drive your brain into a stressed-out state that should be avoided at all costs. Toxic people drive you crazy because their behavior is so irrational. Make no mistake about it; their behavior truly goes against reason.

That being so, should you manage or avoid toxic people?

I’ll argue that you can’t avoid them all the time so should learn to manage them.

As a woman I am ashamed to admit toxic women are far more common than men. Seeing women tearing down women I find myself with penis envy. Women can be more devious. Why? Why are women mean to other women? perhaps because they were never encouraged to be assertive as girls. Or perhaps they don’t realise what they are doing and have inadequate relationship skills with no interpersonal role model. Whatever the reason toxic women are everywhere. In the playgrounds, playgroups, pools, shopping malls, business, even in your own family. These specialists in female warfare don’t only bring down their victims but threaten to undermine the female race. Whether in professional or social grounds they engage in tactical female warfare. Their actions and words are not as overt as bullying, and it’s too nebulous to pin down as deliberate sabotage.

No instead frostiness, criticism and exclusion are their weapons of choice. When this doesn’t have the intended outcome up to the next level:

1. The silent treatment,

2. Exclusion and

3. Backstabbing.

4. Spreading false rumors,

5. Giggling about others and any action that aims to

6. belittle,

7. humiliate and

8. undermine.

Toxic Women are ‘bitches’ — according to, Psychologist Meredith Fuller who defines the creature as one employing a sustained pattern of behavior that amounts to an emotional campaign, but one that is so faint that most ‘victims/women’ think it’s their problem — that they are too sensitive, or reading the behavior wrongly, or inadvertently triggering the problem.

So why do you allow yourself to respond to them emotionally and get sucked into the mix? Perhaps you didn’t even know it was happening — that is the insidious nature of the bitch. Once you have identified the toxic woman in your life, distance yourself from them emotionally and approach your interactions like they’re a science project (or you’re their psych, if you prefer the analogy). You don’t need to respond to the emotional chaos — only the facts. So what can you do? Well, in whatever order you jump on it, here is a scalable guide with links to in-depth reading:

1. Learn to identify toxic women

2. Take time out — Decide whether you need to leave or stay

3. Do your research on how to best respond and Handle The Nasty Women in Your Life

4. Gain Skills:- Grow your emotional intelligence and

5. Show the bitch some loving — Learn to connect in productive and nurturing ways. Be warned you will need humility, flexibility, patience

6. When you are ready, gently start addressing the issues with kindness

7. Do not poke the bear instead decide if you should address it formally

8. I repeat do not poke the bear

9. So, you poked the bear and found she has friends:- quick you really

10. Need to brush up on healthy emotionally intelligent responses and

11. Practice what you preach — repetition, repetition, repetition.

Of course there are equally as many uplifting and encouraging women who raise others up with actions and words, who give hope for a brighter and more inclusive society. It is a difficult but important job women have to raise each other up, one that you will feel alone in until you start the journey and discover Women who help women. These integrity rebels are forging strong companies, creating social revolutions and support movements. It is they who keep me from doing the penis dance. My hope for writing this article is for you to take away the awareness of the toxic woman problem, be a kindness rebel and do something positive for women.